I'm a psychology major, and the field absolutely fascinates me, it always has. But, with everything there is to learn about Mira and spina bifida in general, I kind of feel like I'm already learning everything I need to be learning right now, and adding college back on top of that is a little overwhelming. I already have all of these overwhelming thoughts in my head all the time; is Mira going to need more surgery soon? On her bladder? Sphincter? Shunt? Foot? Hip? All of the above? What can I do to help her more? What can I learn to help her more? Knowledge is power, and researching her conditions has helped quite a bit so far, so just having Mira and doing the best I can already makes me a full time student. The only difference is that with college, the classes have a start and stop time. You finish the assignment, and you move on; researching for Mira is not like that. It doesn't stop and it never will. Dustin is getting ready to start school, Aryanna is walking and starting to talk, Mira has to be catheterized, medicated, therapy done, doctors seen, appointments kept. I am a stay at home, and I take my wifely duties seriously. The house needs cleaned, dinner needs cooked, my family needs taken care of, and that entails very small things, but those things never end. Very small things, like changing a diaper, cooking a meal, switching the loads of laundry over, and cleaning the floors. These things are not large tasks, but when you pile them all on top of each other, the job never ends. There's no such thing as clocking out or having everything done; household work is never done. There's always something else that needs done. The ABC's need sung, a spider needs killed, a mess needs cleaned up, and a child needs fed or cleaned or hugged.
Since having Mira, my tasks have all been laid out for me. I am constantly going through a mental check list to make sure I am taking care of everything that needs my attention: the needs of my children, the needs of my fiancé, the needs of my house; and now to add the needs of my classes into that rotation is slightly terrifying in the enormity of it. BUT in my experience, it is usually the case that, things worth doing are difficult. It wouldn't be as meaningful if it was easy. It wouldn't be life changing if no struggle was required. It wouldn't be rewarding if you didn't have to fight for it.
It's always nice to have those days where you can lay around and bask in the absolute laziness of yourself. Where you lay around and do nothing because, hey, why not? Starting school back up is just another reminder that those days are behind me. I can't NOT cath Mira on time, or give her the medicine her bladder requires, or skip my classes because I don't feel like it right now. I can't do stuff like that anymore. And while it would be nice to bask in absolute laziness, it wouldn't be nearly as rewarding as taking care of my children and continuing my education. So while I continually ask myself 'how the hell am I possibly going to do this?', I also know that the question is rhetorical, because I know I just will. I will do this. I am doing this. And I'll be better for it, my children will be better, my life will be better for it, and that's all that matters.
